A wedding is an exciting time. The planning can be a fun journey and stressful too. When a bride picks her bridesmaids, it is an honor and big responsibility.
You want to be supportive, the voice of reason, the calm in the chaos, and everything in between. Being a bridesmaid is not always the perfect/not-so-perfect movie version of the ups and downs as the squad of besties gets their bride down the aisle.
Yes, the bridezilla and drama can happen, but bottom line, this is a beautiful and memorable time for everyone. As you support your friend during one of the biggest days of her life, it is important to be the best version of yourself so you can be a wonderful anchor for your friend.
Now, for those who have no clue of what a bridesmaid responsibility really is, have no fear. We found this great list from The Spruce to help you get started on the basics. Now, depending on the bride, wedding, and wedding party things can change, so consider this your starting point.
The Duties of a Bridesmaid
- Helping the bride shop for her dress and bridesmaids’ dresses.
- Giving advice on decorations, favors, music, and more, only when asked.
- Helping the maid of honor to plan a bridal shower, and, if appropriate, chipping in for the costs of food, decorations, or venue.
- Helping to plan a bachelorette party (the bridesmaids may pay for this or split the cost with the other attendees).
- Helping the bride dress (and stay calm) before the ceremony.
- Providing moral support at all times.
- Telling others where the couple is registered and other details, such as when they will return from their honeymoon, where to send gifts, and any name changes.
- Being useful at the wedding reception. The couple may ask you to help direct guests to the guestbook, assist with a special moment, make sure that vendors have arrived, or do crisis management. You might also want to stick around after the reception and make sure things are cleaned up and wedding presents secured.
- Being social. Be sure to talk to as many guests as you can, making them feel warmly welcomed. If there’s a dance floor, help get the party going!
- Consider throwing (or helping to pitch in for) a day-after-brunch. These events are great to help the couple catch up with out-of-town guests, and have a more relaxed environment to socialize in.
Did your bride-to-be bestie recently get engaged? Help her out and call us for an appointment and help her say, “yes to the dress!”